There are people in the world who keep things to themselves, they don’t want to rock the boat because often times they feel they will hurt others feelings or they will get hurt themselves. They also want others to like them.
There are also people who are open, speak up, are seen as overbearing, intimidating and aggressive because they are go getters. They aren’t afraid to rock the boat and get an opinion or what is being hidden in the room or conversation out there. They are candid and to the point.
What is a problem is that both groups have difficulty coexisting in the same setting at times. We still make judgments on people who speak up and say what others are too afraid to say themselves. Those that don’t want to speak up silently ridicule those who are candid and then can’t interact or work with individuals who are open and want to get the issues out there to work through the tough stuff.
How can we get through these issues if people can’t come together? I don’t have the answers but I do know that people need to be given a chance and people need to not be judged on their words alone.
For one, look at the impact people are making. If the person is candid and upfront and they are making a difference then maybe it is a good thing. Learn to work with it and find a way to interact with those who are candid, open and overly zealous. You never know, you may just learn something. It also goes the same for those who are more open, learn from your quiet counterparts, what is it that you can gain from their more reserved demeanor that you can incorporate into your life?
The two can coexist with hard work and determination.
There is a strategy that one should have when playing a game- if you want to win.
There is a strategy to having a leg up in the competition if you want to be ahead in the market.
There is even a strategy to meandering through LA traffic on a given day- what time do you leave, what lane should you be in, what route is best to take.
There is a strategy for just about all situations. We just need to put aside 10 minutes a day to think through possibilities. Each of us can come up with a strategy to make our lives easier just by carving out time each day to find a better, sounder way.
It is a new year, a new month and a time for us to look forward.
Often times we let things linger, fester and follow us from year to year. This year is a time to be forward-thinking and move on. Let the sunset on the horizon of 2017 and all that has happened in the past and start new. We are 20 days in to a new beginning- start fresh.
It is a goal of mine to let it go this year. I’ve already let go of those people who have caused me grief and harm in the past year. I’m starting over this year and beginning fresh. I’m looking forward to the new year and new adventures.
As I sat in a meeting recently I wondered that there has to be something missing. A loophole maybe. You always hear about companies trying to figure out what is missing and they need to figure out, so I began to wonder, ‘how can we fill in the loopholes in our own lives?’
I took a look at my every day events. While it was filled with meetings, emails and issues, there was still a loophole in being able to get things done. How was I going to complete everything I thought. Well, it was in rearranging my day. My loophole was in how I went about things. I found that I wasn’t making the most of my day to day. I started by carving out time to turn off email to get things done. Create client docs, do tasks that needed to get done, prepare for meetings, etc. then do emails and get through tickets as I needed. The biggest thing I was forgetting that was causing a major loophole for me was taking time for me. Once I was able to tie it altogether I was more connected and centered.
I tell you all this because being that it is a new year, reevaluate your daily grind. Look at where you may have a loophole as well.
You never know how it will impact your day to day.
How many remember that line from Gypsy? I may be dating myself but it seems that we always have to entertain people everyday.
We have to smile, put on our face, go out of our way to make others happy when in fact who goes out of their way to do the same for us?
I was told recently that I should smile more. Really? Smile more. I’m not a fake and phony smile kind of gal. I smile when I need to or want to and don’t do it on demand so to tell me I have to smile more is too demanding. It is making me perform something I am uncomfortable doing. In fact, it makes me feel as if I have a perma-smile on and can’t get it to go away. Like the Joker in Batman.
So if I want to entertain you with my smile let me be me. Let it come naturally and while I am being genuine.
Forcing someone to do something or be someone they are not isn’t entertaining at all. If you feel the need to see someone smile, make them laugh. Best entertainment ever.
Everyday we use our positive and negative energy to do things in our lives.
I don’t think we intentionally do negative all the time it just happens at times because of situations such as being cut off on the road or because we have something cooking on the stove and something else happens. Negative energy just crops up when it wants to. That is why we need to focus on the positive and funnel that energy as much as possible so that when those negative moments pop up during the day we can combat them as much as we can and counter the good with the bad.
I know it isn’t easy but for a better 2018, i am focusing on funneling the positive and trying to stay away from the negative.