What does ‘team’ really mean?

We have all heard that there is no ‘I’ in TEAM.

We have all been told that we need to ‘work collaboratively’ to get a project done.

We have all been told ‘don’t take it personal your teammates have your back’ when your TEAM doesn’t include you in an important collaborative decision.

But do we really work as a TEAM or are we each working for ourselves and ‘acting’ like a TEAM to get ahead?

I pose these thoughts to everyone after looking deeply at some recent project work. I find there are different types of folks in every team and I’m trying to determine how best to travel down the path without agitating to many of them to get to the end result. We need to consolidate efforts and just stop the BS. Therefore here is what I am finding.

There is ‘one-upping’- I’m better than you and have been here longer so I know all the answer attitudes. These type of folks need to just take a back seat and stop the madness. Help others don’t try to be everything to everyone it doesn’t help the cause.

There is the ‘wrings the face you are consistently wrong I’m going to go rattle and tell the boss attitude’- that doesn’t help anyone either. The tattler just makes everyone untrusting and unwilling to now share project work information. Stop with the consistent ‘run to boss for everything’ and deal with your own issues. Be one with the situation.

There is the ‘I don’t know how to do a process so I’ll ask everyone a different question try to gain your trust and then talk story behind your back about you’ person. Ok this person just needs to stop, listen, learn and for heavens sake the trash talking gets back to folks and others know who it came from so stop. Again, doesn’t help the team.

Then there is the elusive boss who doesn’t help the situation either. They tell everyone, ‘be a team player and be kind, be nice, everyone needs to collaborate or else’. Or else??? Leadership is helpful in all aspects of a project and when there is not a leader and there is no morale to go along with it because teammates are not willing to be kind to one another it makes it difficult to collaborate cohesively.

So what does TEAM really mean? There are a lot of theories out there but how are people getting through the daily grind when TEAM is really an I mentality?

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Lessons I learned from having a Mentor

What is a mentor? Simple question right? I ask this because for years I had one, or thought I did and they turned out to not really help me much at all in the end. They derailed me more than anything. So I will give you some advise on what to look for instead to help you find someone to help you with your quest for success.

1. Find someone who matches your career focus. What is it you want to succeed in and go after that professional person.

2. Communicate openly about what skill set you are looking to achieve and what you would like help them to groom you in. If you aren’t open to change or get advice it won’t be beneficial.

3. Have regular meetings to check in. The best thing you can do is regularly meet to gain perspective and check in with your mentor. Learning is how you become successful.

4. Watch them at their game. You learn by doing and by observing. See if you can tag along with them to meetings or find out what conferences or events they may be at. They are your best resource for improvement and to learn from to be your best.

5. Failure is possible and is OK. It is a learning possibility and not a setback which is why a good mentor will have failed as well. Learn from your mistakes and listen to the advice on how to correct them.

So listen, learn and succeed with a good mentor. I made my mistakes with the one I had and now I hope you can learn something too.

Good luck.

DailyPrompt: Mentor

Take a moment and look around

Go outside and take a seat. Look around. Don’t stare, don’t be creepy, just look. What do you see?

Observe what is around you. Don’t look at your phone, put it down. Look with your eyes and hear what is around. Passing cars, children’s voices, birds, trains. What else?

There are too many times we are head down and focused on our phones and selves that we miss what is before us.

Take time, observe. Look around.

DailyPrompt: Observe

Stop and breathe

I recently took a trip back out to California and it dawned on me that folks there seem to be consistently in overdrive.

Don’t get me wrong, I Love California. Born, raised, wed and raised my own child there, but it has been nice to live away from the hustle and bustle. Everyone is always tapped in to something and always in such a rush.

Cars zoom in and out of traffic lanes, people push past you to get in line for coffee, airport terminals are crammed with people, it has become a constantly moving and sensory overload environment if you are not in it everyday.

Small bites nowadays. I can take small bites. I love my home state but I also like being less rushed.

DailyPrompt: Rush

Each time your around- I Blush

I’m never too far from you as you are always in my thoughts. Each time i think about your smile, your eyes, your laugh- I blush.

After all these years I still remember the first butterflies in my stomach and the way I was giddy when we met. Flushed cheeks, nervous and excited. Blushed and young each time you get near. Every day, every moment it never gets old.

DailyPrompt: Blush