A handful of goals for a new year

An impending new year gives rise to reflection and goal setting. What will your goals for 2014 be? It’s never to early to start thinking about self improvement!

2014 is a big year and a lot will happen but mostly only a handful of things I strive to do in the coming year

– keep running and complete another half marathon if possible
– be more spontaneous
– learn something new
– volunteer more
– travel

These are all attainable as long as I put my mind to it.

Daily Prompt: To Boldly Go…

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Throw out the dead wood

Just as we cannot see our own faces without looking into a mirror, we cannot know ourselves without looking at our relationships.

Strange how things stay with us.

I’ve been evaluating things lately. Being as it is getting to the end of the year, I decided it was time to get a head start, but something prompted this evaluation really. It was a need to clean out the dead wood in my life.

There are times when we take things for granted, we all do it, but when we do it time and time again- that is when it will eventually become a problem. I’m to that point and I’ve been given a little perspective lately to boost my confidence to throw out the dead wood in my life and move on.

See I have always been the one who has been there for everything. Congratulations, promotions, births, deaths, a conversation when needed because people need it. I’ve been the rock for people to get through the toughest times, but in return when I’ve needed it- I’m the one holding myself up. It’s never the same. When plans are made, they are cancelled and I’m left to say, ‘it’s okay’, ‘no worries’, ‘we’ll catch up’, but it never happens. Well it just so happened that all I needed was 5 minutes and I couldn’t even get that. What does that tell me about where I stand as a friend? It tells me that I’ve just been hit by the biggest train and on the front of the train it says, ‘sucker’.

That moment gave me a reality check on everything. We really cannot know ourselves without looking at our relationships with others. Who we communicate with is key to who we are as people. I’ve been wrong all these years. I thought I had a friend I could trust and I was wrong. It breaks my heart to know I was such a fool and blindly led to believe they were someone other than truthful with me when all I have ever been was open and honest.

I now know that my reality has changed and the relationships I have with people will be changed forever from this point forward.

My Perspective is My Own

Today the prompt asks us to think about perspective but it asks for us to think about something that drives us crazy and then to think about something that makes you happy and does it change your perspective? Why ask for someones perspective in that sense?

According to the dictionary here is what perspective means:

per·spec·tive   [per-spek-tiv]   

noun

1. a technique of depicting volumes and spatial relationships on a flat surface. Compare aerial perspectivelinear perspective.
2. a picture employing this technique, especially one in which it is prominent: an architect’s perspective of a house.
3. a visible scene, especially one extending to a distance; vista: a perspective on the main axis of an estate.
4. the state of existing in space before the eye: The elevations look all right, but the building’s composition is a failure in perspective.
5.the state of one’s ideas, the facts known to one, etc., in having a meaningful interrelationship: You have to live here a few years to see local conditions in perspective.
Now looking at the prompt and looking at the definition I just can’t seem to put my finger on something that drives me crazy and then makes me happy at the same time. Maybe it is because when I usually put something into perspective it is because I have taken it into deep consideration and pondered what it means to me.
So here are three way I take things into perspective:
1. Take friendships for instance. I know I write a lot about friends but bear with me.  There are friends who are just kind of there. The one’s who talk to you occasionally, never respond to you , only want to talk when they need something, and treat you like a fair weather friend. Do you keep them around for that rainy day when you need something to do and someone to go hang out with or do you cut your losses and say “Adios”? You need to take the friendship into consideration, ponder the pros and cons and really figure out if there is any benefit in having that relationship in your life. They obviously don’t think much of the friendship right? So have a little perspective and open up your mind to new possibilities. Find a new friend.
2. Or say there is someone you know who has knowledge of a job opening in their company but doesn’t bother to tell you. You find out about it. Do you approach them and ask or do you just let it go because something tells you that working with them would probably be a handful.
3. And one more, life throws lemons at you all the time. You do a very good job of dodging them all the time but once in a while you get hit with one or two. Take those lemons into perspective and learn from them. They are all lessons, just like the friend and just like the person who knows about a job.
We all have differing opinions on perspective. I just can’t think of one thing that is crazy and then makes me happy. That is more elation, jubilation, triumph- not perspective.
Daily Prompt: Perspective

Wicked ways aren’t always winning qualities

Write about evil: how you understand it (or don’t), what you think it means, or a way it’s manifested, either in the world at large or in your life.

[to Glinda] Very well – I’ll bide my time. [to Dorothy] And as for you, my fine lady, it’s true I can’t attend to you here and now as I’d like; but just try to stay out of my way – just try! I’ll get you, my pretty, and your little dog too! [With a burst of laughter, she whirls around and vanishes in a burst of smoke and fire and a clap of thunder.] – The Wizard of Oz

Yes I’ve encountered evil first hand. Much like the Wicked Witch of the West, minus the green skin on the outside, the individual was green with envy on the inside. For some reason they had issues and still do have issues. Maybe they felt they could do things better, or that I was better and they wanted my life. Maybe they wanted everything to be perfect in their world and when they couldn’t attain that they decided to take it out on others. Maybe they are just sick and twisted and need help. Whatever their reason was for their jealousy, rants, crying and outlandish wicked ways, they felt they needed to hurt others in the process. I don’t understand people like this. They can be so sweet one day and then, BAM! Someone who is hateful the next.

I am glad that I do not need to encounter this person anymore. They will torment and torture someone else I am sure and maybe, just maybe someone will listen and do something about this person. Karma may come into play-maybe. I’m sure the wickedness will still hold true inside of them, I don’t know if that will ever go away. But I will not be around to see it thankfully. I’ve moved on and I am away from the evil that lurked in corners and stepped lightly around to cause issues and problems. I don’t need people like that in my life. Honesty, trust, openness. Those are the real kinds of qualities that you should look for in people. Others are just phony and out for themselves.

Advice for the person: just let it go already, get help for yourself and grow up!

Daily Prompt: Wicked Witch

Language can be so Cray-Cray

Write about whatever you’d like, but write using regional slang, your dialect, or in your accent.

Now being from California we have our own form of language for the most part. Some might call it ‘Valley Girl or California Slang’. “Like, oh my god!” , “dude, that was tubular”, “gnarly man”, “like, fur sure”. If you were born before the 80s and90s then you definitely know what I am talking about. If not, then your parents may have talked like this or still do. I know that IF needed, I can embarrass my son with my California twang. But I only use it in rare cases. “Like its totally OK to talk like that everyday, but like you soooo totally want to like still be totally awesome, ya know?” (As I snap by bubble gum and talk between bubbles.)

Today’s slang though is different. I don’t know if it is really regional or more nation specific as having just come from a trip where we heard several teens saying the same things on college campuses. Here is a list of some of the things that I’ve snagged from my teen and from what I’ve heard around the campuses:

Hella raw, that’s raw= totally awesome
Cray-cray= crazy
Rachet= not nice, obnoxious person, nasty
Dip= leaving, gotta go, see ya
That’s sick= cool, awesome
Kill ’em = you got him, good one
Ahhhh snap= darn it, forgot something or shoot

This is just some of the various things I’ve heard. There is a ton more, I just can’t remember all the translations right now.

Daily Prompt: Non-Regional Diction

Please be courteous in airports

Ahhh. Traveling. We experience so many different things when we travel.

I like how the gate attendants tell people that you can only take two personal bags on board with you and there are people taking 3-6. I know they understand they just try to get away with it.  There was a woman on board last night who had a purse, a large department store bag (filled to the rim I might add) and a roller bag.  They made the announcement that they would have to check all roller bags. She didn’t seem to care. The attendant at the gate informed her that she needed to find a way to fit the  purse into the department store bag or it wouldn’t be possible to go further. She looked at him, while looking up from her phone because that was more important than following the rules, as if he insulted her. She stuffed it into the bag. There was nowhere to stuff it. I don’t know why they just didn’t take her out of line and tell her that the roller bag had to go under the plane and the other bag had to be rearranged because what ended up happening is she took up “2” areas with her stuff. Not just one roller bag section but two so someone else had to check their bag. She didn’t seem to care either. She just continued on her way with her phone texting.

It is people like that who really don’t understand respect, sharing, empathy. She continued her snobbish ways when a gentleman went to sit down in his seat and her facial features were less than pleasant. I’m surprised she didn’t ask to move. She was a horrible person to have come across on our trip and one of the slowest to get her stuff off the plane.

Now I know that I am standing on a soap box right now and venting but if you are in an airport, be considerate of others. Give up your seat for an older person to sit down on the trains or shuttles, don’t sneeze and cough on people, walk through the airport- don’t bob and weave around because you are texting or reading emails that can wait until you get to your gate; and please make sure you follow the directions the flight attendants give you when checking baggage. Everyone has somewhere to go, a flight to catch, or a loved one to see. You are not the only one on the plane.

Thanks for hearing me out today.