I’ll stay myself, but I’ll take change- thank you

Tomorrow brings us another year, a clean slate, a fresh start. I know some people want to change their lives and be someone different, but I don’t want to be someone different. I just want things to change.

Every year we make resolutions and set goals. Some we achieve- like this year. I’ve achieved running a half-marathon even after a setback with my knee. I’ve resolved to let things go that have been a drain on my life. I’ve resolved to maintain a healthier life.

This year I finally feel I’ve achieved something. I wouldn’t have done this without being myself. I still feel like something is missing though and that is what I want to change in the new year. I don’t want to be someone else I just want to change things. I need change. It has been far too long and I’m due. I’m not talking about going and getting a new haircut kind of a change. I’m talking about a whole new place, new adventures, new job (that would be very enticing) and a new way of life. I’m looking forward to a new year and new possibilities that only I control.

I’ve already thrown out the dead wood (throw out the dead wood) and I’ve set my resolutions (a handful of goals for a new year) now it is time to step forward in 2014 on my own path and take hold of my possibilities for me. I’m looking forward this year and not back, it’s time to move on.

Daily Prompt: A Brand New You : Effective Tomorrow

To gift or not to gift

I haven’t written in a while. I’ve been busy. While I know that isn’t a good excuse to not sit down and tap something out for a couple minutes, it is all I can offer right now.

I’ve given a lot of thought to the meaning of gift giving. Typically we give each other gifts for a reason and it shouldn’t be because “we HAVE to do it. Otherwise why give gifts at all. Just say Happy Holidays or Merry Christmas and be done with it. In fact don’t say anything at all, right?

Here is my take on things:

I am sure people give gift cards for a couple reasons. 1) they know the person really likes the store and they want to help them out. 2) it is quick and painless so they opt to get it. 3) people tell others, “Just get me a gift card”. Simple enough but at least some thought was put into it.

Articles of clothing you think the person would wear. 1) you’ve never seen the person in the color before so why force them into it? 2) it is two sizes too small because no one bothered to check what size your family is– hmmm could be a returning nightmare as no return receipt accompanies present 3) it smells like mothballs. I bet it was a regifted item.

No thought put into gift at all. These are the ones you wonder why give at all. 1) socks to wear only once a year- some people don’t wear socks in warm climates. When would they wear them? 2) plastic glass identifiers for parties. You’ve been to my house how often when there was a party? We don’t use that kind of glass. 3) a catalog gift that no one can find anything useful out of. For example, a child gets a catalog gift and the options are, ready, salad spinner, screw drivers, electric shaver, etc… How is this useful. Now the child may be a teen but still… Salad spinner!!!!

I have to say if you give a gift for a holiday, birthday, as a just because, make sure it has meaning and purpose. Know the person and what they like. If all else fails go for the gift card, but please stay away from the salad spinner for teens. I felt so bad I went and bought my son something else – just because it was so thoughtless.

Listen when someone is speaking

Why is it people don’t let you finish what you are saying?

If you are talking then obviously you have something to say and even if it isn’t important or has nothing to do with the other person- hear them out. You have NO IDEA what it means to them, or how it effects their life, or what is going on with them. Don’t interrupt, talk to someone else, play with your phone:

Listen.
Empathize.
Be compassionate.
Respect others.

You might miss something important in their lives if you don’t.

The Unlikely Timing of Information

Information comes to us in many different ways. The best information comes to us at the most unlikely times and it is this information that we are the most surprised with when it catches us off guard. Kind of like throwing out the life preserver because you need support and you find that the line is split and there is no one to help you.

I guess I have a couple things going through my head right now:

1. I am stumped when I hear that people expect you to know something when there is no indication that you should have known it. Or you start something and find out that nothing works the way it should but there is a lack of urgency to get things fixed, however, you should know how to make it happen for you. I don’t know why this is, or where these people come from who make these broad assumptions but do they really think that it is ok to catch someone off guard and be alright with it?

2. It is like trying to rely on a friend to be there. You expect them to be compassionate and sincere when you “need” them and find out that they don’t care a bit about what is going on in your life to be there for you at all. You’ve reached out and “poof” you get nothing in return. No compassion, no sympathy, no depth to the emotion that you are feeling, just plain pathetic contact. Who are these people? You’ve given them “your” time and devotion when things went wrong in their life and they can’t give their time now. WOW! Reality check.

3. I am having a hard time with people who expect you to contact them out of the blue because the phone works two ways and they think that you should always be the one to make contact first. I thought Alexander Graham Bell designed the phone to work in a way to make a conversation work from either end. I didn’t think it was only a one-sided adventure. Am I wrong on that?

I guess I am just getting older and looking at things from a different way of life these days. Maybe I am just wishing people would open their eyes and be a little more personable.  

 

Weekly Photo Challenge: Community

When you run there is always a community of runners somewhere. Some run with their groups or clubs, others run with their partners, while still others partake in running events like this that close to 15,000 runners took part in during November.

A community of runners. Running for a cause, running for fun, running for the sake of running, or running to meet a goal- just enjoying the experience together.

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Make Time For What Is Important

“If it’s important, you’ll make time for it in your life.” ~Unknown

A simple statement, yet we take the important things in our life for granted so often that we forget what is truly meaningful. Sometimes we get reminders, but we don’t act on them. Other times we get huge signs and still, we don’t do anything about it. It is when something life altering happens that we really see what is important in our lives that we begin to make time and then it may really only be too late.

I guess I’m saying, make time each day in your life for what is important because you never know when time is no longer on your side.

 

 

If Ye Were Deserted Mate

The five items I must have on a deserted island are:

Flare gun
Fresh water source
Shade
A knife
Flint

The rest I can learn to make or hunt for myself. I’m resourceful and if I was shipwrecked then I am sure I will have some other provisions temporarily. Therefore, these are the necessities to live on.

Daily Prompt: Five Items