Seeing people for who they really are

There are people in this world who think they are better than others. They believe that they are superior, that they are always right, that they have the upper hand, and that their actions can do no wrong. These individuals are fools.

I’ve encountered these individuals a lot in my life lately and I don’t know if being out of the work force has opened my eyes to it more, or if it is age that has lit the fire within to make me see who they really are as people. I do know that these people make me want to hurl. Let me give you a couple examples and please bear with me, I’m on a soapbox today.

My husband took command of a unit last year. It was his big day. An individual came to his event and they expected myself, my son, my sister-in-law, even my husband to cater to them. Now this individual can’t bother to pick up a phone and call us, text us, write to us, or even if they are in the area-stop by. But on his day, they expected us to woo them. Yea, I don’t think so. Not going to happen. Not on my watch.

Another example, a family comes down and literally is within 5 minutes of our home, but can’t say, “hey we are in town want to catch up.” Or, same family passes through area and passes through again, stops to go to store son works in. Actually stops and says, “didn’t think he’d be working.” Really, he has a job what did you think he would be doing on a Sunday afternoon?

Here is one- previous mentor. Would talk, text, have drinks and lunches. Discussed jobs, prospective jobs, book deals, family, life in general and then poof. Cannot for the life of me figure out why they all of a sudden are so high and mighty either. I knew it was time to find another mentor anyway but nothing. No communication to explain anything. I mean that hurts man. What gives. What is wrong with these people?

I keep telling myself that the world works in mysterious ways and that something will come back to these people who think that they are high and mighty, superior, or better than myself, my son, and my husband. There is no excuse for their behavior. There really isn’t. It is just called petty, cruel, underhanded childish behavior that takes me back to grade school. I have associated myself with the wrong people for far too long. I’m done with the lack of respect people give me.

It is time to break the bond with them all. The question is do I say anything about it or just go quietly?

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6 thoughts on “Seeing people for who they really are

  1. It’s always a tough situation when dealing with tough people like this. Even though it would be easy to just cut them off completely, it doesn’t help you that you didn’t get your feelings out. Think about what you want to say, and just say it. I think it would do both parties well. I hope that helps!!

      • I know they will be heard, whether they react to it or not. I experienced this once and I kept quiet and I wish I would have said what’s on my mind. Be strong, and stand up for yourself ❤ ❤ I know you can do it!!

      • Well I tried to contain it all this weekend seeing two of them, but couldn’t hold back. I was right. Pure denial and reversal of everything back to me. It ended with my friends and my in laws backing me. Wow! What a ride it has been. But it had to be said. Just wish it wasn’t on the occasion it happened at.

  2. People are quickly losing sight of respect towards others. I don’t know what’s causing it, but it’s very frustrating and disappointing. In regard to your question, I believe the answer may differ from person to person. Some may not appreciate being told about their faults up front, but will use it later (after they think it over) to change their ways. Others may not hear you at all and think you’re blowing everything out of proportion. They are the “I can do no wrong” people. Either way though, I believe that people need to know when they personally effect you with their behavior, and it can be said in a very nice way to not hurt their feelings any more than necessary.

    • Yes people are losing sight of respect towards one another. I know two of the individuals will see it as me being the one who is blowing up and or taking things personally. It is never them. They have done this to me their whole lives. I don’t know if they will ever change. The other, I am not sure if they will even give me the time of day to say what I need to them. It is sad what people do. They can dish it out but can’t take what they are dishing when it comes back in return.

      Lack of respect, lack of dignity, lack of personal depth in self.

      Thanks for your post. It helps.

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