Funny thing about communication. Some people know how to communicate effectively and others- they close themselves off when the slightest thing doesn’t go their way or something is said that they just don’t like. It is interesting to me to watch this display or dissatisfaction. I say that for these reasons:
1. I talk to a lot of people everyday. I talk to them on the phone, through the computer, through electronic communications, and in person. Over time you learn to read their interactions with you and the silence you receive. The more you get to know someone the more you learn the triggers that are sent.
2. They don’t know how to react. Instead of talking things through, they jump and react by closing themselves off from the world. Some just need to learn to use their words.
3. People shut each other out for days/weeks thinking that it is the best way to deal with a situation. For them it is best but for the work situation, collaboration or even a friendship- it is detrimental.
4. Basic understanding is key to self growth. Sometimes you don’t always get what you want but communicating what is needed from others is a risk we all take each and every day. We have to learn to live with what others share, no matter how hard it is to swallow at times.
Those are my four principles for communication when others don’t respond or communicate effectively with each other. Learn to accept when someone says something you don’t necessarily like. You may not know what is going on with their lives at the time and you may not know the situation you’ve put them in if say a meeting was cancelled that was of high importance for work and they’ve been made to back track for you. Rethink your reactions.
Communication is key and 90% of our day.