I try Over and Over again to have a mantra, but I just can’t come to find one that works. Most days when I get frustrated I chant Namaste Over and Over again until I feel better but that lasts only a short time. I do this when I feel that my creativity is stifled or that i am cornered or in a box.
How is it that there are people in the world who want to always place others in a box or stifle their spark. I got excited about a project one day and a coworker said that it won’t work it is too broad of an idea. What? Think outside of the blinders you have on and what potential we all have. Why be inside of a box yourself and then place others inside with you. I don’t understand people who want to do that to you. Be open and just.
There is this person who is so so negative and then spreads their toxins around to others. They then stifle the air we all have to interact with them in and makes it uncomfortable. They also go and lie and say that those who do try and interact with that person said something they didn’t like or didn’t agree to. So who is stifling who? It makes you then stifled because you no lib we want to interact or bring things up, instead it makes you want to shut down.
I’m all for getting rid of those who bring on the negative, toxic energy and push forward with the new and positive forces of good. Enough is enough.
For the last six months I haven’t felt like things are right.
When you do everything in your power to make a client happy and you have another your company feels you failed at. Everything you do gives you an inkling that you aren’t doing the right things or that no matter how hard you try you just can’t rebound from a failure.
I know that in some companies it is one and done. You fail you are out of there. In others they like to see you fail because you learn from your mistakes; in this one, it is more like certain people can fail and they get a free pass but if you fail there is a higher expectation and you are made to feel as if you are not worth being at the company any longer.
So I have an inkling things are different and going to change. It isn’t fair even though life isn’t fair but if I were to have to leave the company then maybe it is a good thing. Failure helps you learn, it helps you grow and with some things it isn’t just one persons fault that you fail. In this case it is multiple issues that bubbles up to result in a failure, therefore, should one be held to the higher standard and have it hang over their head? No but then again that would be poor management.
So it is an inkling I have that because of how management is and because of the standard they hold some to and not all the company may or may not survive. They may and may not make profits and they may and may not have those who work hardest to support the overall company goals around because of their knee jerk reactions.
There are people in the world who keep things to themselves, they don’t want to rock the boat because often times they feel they will hurt others feelings or they will get hurt themselves. They also want others to like them.
There are also people who are open, speak up, are seen as overbearing, intimidating and aggressive because they are go getters. They aren’t afraid to rock the boat and get an opinion or what is being hidden in the room or conversation out there. They are candid and to the point.
What is a problem is that both groups have difficulty coexisting in the same setting at times. We still make judgments on people who speak up and say what others are too afraid to say themselves. Those that don’t want to speak up silently ridicule those who are candid and then can’t interact or work with individuals who are open and want to get the issues out there to work through the tough stuff.
How can we get through these issues if people can’t come together? I don’t have the answers but I do know that people need to be given a chance and people need to not be judged on their words alone.
For one, look at the impact people are making. If the person is candid and upfront and they are making a difference then maybe it is a good thing. Learn to work with it and find a way to interact with those who are candid, open and overly zealous. You never know, you may just learn something. It also goes the same for those who are more open, learn from your quiet counterparts, what is it that you can gain from their more reserved demeanor that you can incorporate into your life?
The two can coexist with hard work and determination.
There is a strategy that one should have when playing a game- if you want to win.
There is a strategy to having a leg up in the competition if you want to be ahead in the market.
There is even a strategy to meandering through LA traffic on a given day- what time do you leave, what lane should you be in, what route is best to take.
There is a strategy for just about all situations. We just need to put aside 10 minutes a day to think through possibilities. Each of us can come up with a strategy to make our lives easier just by carving out time each day to find a better, sounder way.
It is a new year, a new month and a time for us to look forward.
Often times we let things linger, fester and follow us from year to year. This year is a time to be forward-thinking and move on. Let the sunset on the horizon of 2017 and all that has happened in the past and start new. We are 20 days in to a new beginning- start fresh.
It is a goal of mine to let it go this year. I’ve already let go of those people who have caused me grief and harm in the past year. I’m starting over this year and beginning fresh. I’m looking forward to the new year and new adventures.
As I sat in a meeting recently I wondered that there has to be something missing. A loophole maybe. You always hear about companies trying to figure out what is missing and they need to figure out, so I began to wonder, ‘how can we fill in the loopholes in our own lives?’
I took a look at my every day events. While it was filled with meetings, emails and issues, there was still a loophole in being able to get things done. How was I going to complete everything I thought. Well, it was in rearranging my day. My loophole was in how I went about things. I found that I wasn’t making the most of my day to day. I started by carving out time to turn off email to get things done. Create client docs, do tasks that needed to get done, prepare for meetings, etc. then do emails and get through tickets as I needed. The biggest thing I was forgetting that was causing a major loophole for me was taking time for me. Once I was able to tie it altogether I was more connected and centered.
I tell you all this because being that it is a new year, reevaluate your daily grind. Look at where you may have a loophole as well.
You never know how it will impact your day to day.