About tornin2

I love to write and always have but because of work commitments, family, and life in general it has been on the back burner. I decided to write my blog about life as we know it, or I know it. Just as I would write them all down on bits of paper, they are now here in a formatted document. Hope you enjoy them, laugh at them, or can relate. Happy blogging.

Remove the expectations this Valentine’s

Valentine’s Day. A day filled with heart shaped boxes, jewelry, chocolate, dreams, and expectations. 

Some people may have been married on this day and celebrating a special occasion, others may have had their hearts broken, and others just may not relate at all.  I used to have expectations for the day just like everyone else but over the years I’ve become tired of the commercialization that stores and television put on Valentine’s Day. It forces expectations on people instead of letting it happen naturally and spontaneously. It takes the unknown out of life and makes people have to react that is why I am more inclined to just have a quiet retreat and spend a day, other than Valentine’s with my husband somewhere. No frills, no candy, no hoopla- no expectations. 
Daily Prompt: Expectations

To be heard

You wonder sometimes if you are heard.

I sit on conference calls a lot and when I speak up at times I don’t know if people are listening or grasping for things to do while I talk. Have I been heard?

In another situation silence makes you wonder if what you have said means you’ve been heard.

I often try to talk to my adult college age child about important matters (i.e. Scholarship deadlines, money, life plans, choices) and wonder- have I been heard. 

There are times when I feel like screaming at the top of my lungs just to see if anyone will react because I am invisible to them and unheard. 

What does it take to be heard nowadays? Does it take people to fight in the streets, post ridiculous media segments, protest for a cause that is only one sided or be part of something you know is not within your moral ground. Is that what it takes to be heard? If it is- I’d rather be silent.

Daily Prompt: Heard

Overwhelming desire to drive- just don’t 

There are many items that can overwhelm a person in a day. Consider this one thing: traffic. 

Today as I was on the rod traveling between home, a conference event, and an airport hotel I found that people become overwhelmed on the road. 

If you are stuck in traffic next to them for extended periods of time and are able to watch (which I unfortunately had the opportunity to do today) you can see them become uneasy, fidget, pick up their phone, start to yell at the cars and drivers, panic in their seats. It is rather disturbing as a driver on the road. Now I understand this doesn’t happen in all parts of the country. I envy those who don’t have to experience this chaos. I know everyone has to get somewhere, just relax. Listen to something soothing, a book perhaps, or call a friend, or don’t drive at hours that you don’t need to be on the road. I find that seasoned drivers aren’t the ones who are the overwhelmed drivers, itnisnthose who jump in their cars and fee they can beat the odds. 

Do is all a favor- don’t. 

It is my opinion, my blog but I just had to share. 

Daily Prompt: Overwhelming

To speak or not to speak

I have always been one to speak up and say what I felt whether it be in my personal life or in the workplace. Especially if it comes to someone talking down to you and telling you ‘you are to serious’, ‘you aren’t understanding’, ‘you need to listen’, ‘you are too literal’, ‘stop and be less personal about things because you aren’t getting it’. To be honest when people continually tell you these statements how are you not to take them personally and make you want to speak out and say, ‘are you calling me stupid? Am I just an idiot to you because that is how you are treating me.’

I am tired of people doing this. If directions aren’t clear and understandable how are others suppose to follow and don’t talk down to people as it makes people feel degraded and disrespected. It leads to hate and anger.

I speak my mind and speak up because others don’t and I don’t think that others should keep quiet. If more spoke out then it wouldn’t leave those of us that do speak up be labeled as ‘outspoken’, ‘overbearing’ etc…

So I ask 

To speak or not to speak. Would you?

Daily post: speak out

Repurposed lights

Here is what I have repurposed. We go target clay shooting and what better way to repurpose the spent shells and old Christmas lights that to put the two together. 

I’ve even written an arrticle and posted it out on Yahoovoices when it was around, but that has since gone by the wayside. If anyone would like the directions I’m happy to post here. 

Weekly Photo Challege: Repurpose