There are people in the world who keep things to themselves, they don’t want to rock the boat because often times they feel they will hurt others feelings or they will get hurt themselves. They also want others to like them.
There are also people who are open, speak up, are seen as overbearing, intimidating and aggressive because they are go getters. They aren’t afraid to rock the boat and get an opinion or what is being hidden in the room or conversation out there. They are candid and to the point.
What is a problem is that both groups have difficulty coexisting in the same setting at times. We still make judgments on people who speak up and say what others are too afraid to say themselves. Those that don’t want to speak up silently ridicule those who are candid and then can’t interact or work with individuals who are open and want to get the issues out there to work through the tough stuff.
How can we get through these issues if people can’t come together? I don’t have the answers but I do know that people need to be given a chance and people need to not be judged on their words alone.
For one, look at the impact people are making. If the person is candid and upfront and they are making a difference then maybe it is a good thing. Learn to work with it and find a way to interact with those who are candid, open and overly zealous. You never know, you may just learn something. It also goes the same for those who are more open, learn from your quiet counterparts, what is it that you can gain from their more reserved demeanor that you can incorporate into your life?
The two can coexist with hard work and determination.
As I sat in a meeting recently I wondered that there has to be something missing. A loophole maybe. You always hear about companies trying to figure out what is missing and they need to figure out, so I began to wonder, ‘how can we fill in the loopholes in our own lives?’
I took a look at my every day events. While it was filled with meetings, emails and issues, there was still a loophole in being able to get things done. How was I going to complete everything I thought. Well, it was in rearranging my day. My loophole was in how I went about things. I found that I wasn’t making the most of my day to day. I started by carving out time to turn off email to get things done. Create client docs, do tasks that needed to get done, prepare for meetings, etc. then do emails and get through tickets as I needed. The biggest thing I was forgetting that was causing a major loophole for me was taking time for me. Once I was able to tie it altogether I was more connected and centered.
I tell you all this because being that it is a new year, reevaluate your daily grind. Look at where you may have a loophole as well.
You never know how it will impact your day to day.
We all learn at a different pace. Some of us might be able to look at something once and instantly have it saved to our memory bank; others it might take two, three, maybe even four times before it becomes solid.
I know from experience that it can be easy and hard to pick up on things even if you know the concepts. Take for instance switching jobs within your same field. You haven’t left the field but you still need to learn a ton about the new company, the people, how things work, you are learning as you go.
I take each of these moments with stride. I’ve learned over the years that you can’t rush learning. People use to say ‘cram for your classes’ but you really can’t. You need to absorb it all otherwise you don’t know the culture, the people, or the field itself.
So to me… To learn is to take it all in. That is learning.
We often take people for granted if they know too much about a certain topic or area of knowledge. We underestimate their value to an organization or group and for some it can be detrimental to their future and for others it becomes an asset.
Recently I’ve been underestimated and have found a better fit for my knowledge and skill set. Those that didn’t value what I brought to the table will not have the benefit of me sharing my depth and understanding of the culture, experience, and innuendos of everyday occurrences within the setting any longer. It will be their loss as they underestimated the power of a persons network.
Never underestimate someone and who they know, what they know, and where they’ve gained their experience. My next adventure knows all too well how valuable those skills are and I’m looking forward to engaging.