What is a mentor? Simple question right? I ask this because for years I had one, or thought I did and they turned out to not really help me much at all in the end. They derailed me more than anything. So I will give you some advise on what to look for instead to help you find someone to help you with your quest for success.
1. Find someone who matches your career focus. What is it you want to succeed in and go after that professional person.
2. Communicate openly about what skill set you are looking to achieve and what you would like help them to groom you in. If you aren’t open to change or get advice it won’t be beneficial.
3. Have regular meetings to check in. The best thing you can do is regularly meet to gain perspective and check in with your mentor. Learning is how you become successful.
4. Watch them at their game. You learn by doing and by observing. See if you can tag along with them to meetings or find out what conferences or events they may be at. They are your best resource for improvement and to learn from to be your best.
5. Failure is possible and is OK. It is a learning possibility and not a setback which is why a good mentor will have failed as well. Learn from your mistakes and listen to the advice on how to correct them.
So listen, learn and succeed with a good mentor. I made my mistakes with the one I had and now I hope you can learn something too.
I’m never too far from you as you are always in my thoughts. Each time i think about your smile, your eyes, your laugh- I blush.
After all these years I still remember the first butterflies in my stomach and the way I was giddy when we met. Flushed cheeks, nervous and excited. Blushed and young each time you get near. Every day, every moment it never gets old.
Lately it has been a bit frustrating to get things done that require my full attention.
There are individuals who insist that they are correct in all aspects of the daily grind yet they don’t know the first thing about what I’ve been doing to make the flow of work or life for that matter efficient and effective. They assume that I am doing things wrong.
I have spelled out in words or in actions a plan, a strategy and still They insist that I am not doing right by them. It is truly getting to be a day to day beat down.
Today I am just venting and tomorrow I know will be a better day but this last week has been a real let down all around.
So my outlook is to take the small bites of good in a day no matter how insistent someone is that you are doing something wrong. Every small bite will fill you with goodness. Just keep filling yourself with small bites because that will give you some hope you will make it through the day.
A new year and a new beginning right. Well then try something different. Sign up for a class at the local parks and rec or YMCA. Even go to the local community college or university. There are courses you can take through online groups as well. Enroll for something that is out of your wheelhouse and/or improve a skill.
I’ve been taking Spanish for the last six months. I am not very good at it but I am understanding more of the basics than I have before and I have recently signed up for an online course to gain more knowledge for professional development. Anything to keep my brain motivated and me engaged.
So try something different. There are plenty of free and for profit courses out there that are well worth the dollar you will spend to get ahead, enjoy life a little more or simply relearn an old skill.
For the last six months I haven’t felt like things are right.
When you do everything in your power to make a client happy and you have another your company feels you failed at. Everything you do gives you an inkling that you aren’t doing the right things or that no matter how hard you try you just can’t rebound from a failure.
I know that in some companies it is one and done. You fail you are out of there. In others they like to see you fail because you learn from your mistakes; in this one, it is more like certain people can fail and they get a free pass but if you fail there is a higher expectation and you are made to feel as if you are not worth being at the company any longer.
So I have an inkling things are different and going to change. It isn’t fair even though life isn’t fair but if I were to have to leave the company then maybe it is a good thing. Failure helps you learn, it helps you grow and with some things it isn’t just one persons fault that you fail. In this case it is multiple issues that bubbles up to result in a failure, therefore, should one be held to the higher standard and have it hang over their head? No but then again that would be poor management.
So it is an inkling I have that because of how management is and because of the standard they hold some to and not all the company may or may not survive. They may and may not make profits and they may and may not have those who work hardest to support the overall company goals around because of their knee jerk reactions.