Remove the expectations this Valentine’s

Valentine’s Day. A day filled with heart shaped boxes, jewelry, chocolate, dreams, and expectations. 

Some people may have been married on this day and celebrating a special occasion, others may have had their hearts broken, and others just may not relate at all.  I used to have expectations for the day just like everyone else but over the years I’ve become tired of the commercialization that stores and television put on Valentine’s Day. It forces expectations on people instead of letting it happen naturally and spontaneously. It takes the unknown out of life and makes people have to react that is why I am more inclined to just have a quiet retreat and spend a day, other than Valentine’s with my husband somewhere. No frills, no candy, no hoopla- no expectations. 
Daily Prompt: Expectations

To be heard

You wonder sometimes if you are heard.

I sit on conference calls a lot and when I speak up at times I don’t know if people are listening or grasping for things to do while I talk. Have I been heard?

In another situation silence makes you wonder if what you have said means you’ve been heard.

I often try to talk to my adult college age child about important matters (i.e. Scholarship deadlines, money, life plans, choices) and wonder- have I been heard. 

There are times when I feel like screaming at the top of my lungs just to see if anyone will react because I am invisible to them and unheard. 

What does it take to be heard nowadays? Does it take people to fight in the streets, post ridiculous media segments, protest for a cause that is only one sided or be part of something you know is not within your moral ground. Is that what it takes to be heard? If it is- I’d rather be silent.

Daily Prompt: Heard

Overwhelming desire to drive- just don’tĀ 

There are many items that can overwhelm a person in a day. Consider this one thing: traffic. 

Today as I was on the rod traveling between home, a conference event, and an airport hotel I found that people become overwhelmed on the road. 

If you are stuck in traffic next to them for extended periods of time and are able to watch (which I unfortunately had the opportunity to do today) you can see them become uneasy, fidget, pick up their phone, start to yell at the cars and drivers, panic in their seats. It is rather disturbing as a driver on the road. Now I understand this doesn’t happen in all parts of the country. I envy those who don’t have to experience this chaos. I know everyone has to get somewhere, just relax. Listen to something soothing, a book perhaps, or call a friend, or don’t drive at hours that you don’t need to be on the road. I find that seasoned drivers aren’t the ones who are the overwhelmed drivers, itnisnthose who jump in their cars and fee they can beat the odds. 

Do is all a favor- don’t. 

It is my opinion, my blog but I just had to share. 

Daily Prompt: Overwhelming

Keep it Simple

Have you ever heard someone explain a process and felt like all they wanted to do is hear themselves talk? They talked and talked and talked and no matter what you tried to explain- a stripped down, simpler version, a clarification: nothing mattered. 

Keep It Simple Stupid (K.I.S.S.) best acronym in the world.

So many people just want to hear themselves and hear that they are right and think they are making a difference but really all everyone else does is tune them out. They have lost folks within the first five minutes because they can’t have a collaborative discussion. It is draining, tiring, and unproductive.

Just saying. 

Daily Prompt: Simple

My Calming Island

We all have times where we want to be alone, secluded in our world where no one can come in and disturb our thoughts or our lives. We block out the reality of our everyday to focus on what is happening inside. Maybe because we received bad news or a life altering change that is going on. We could have had a loss in our family or something has happened in the world that has taken a toll on us that we are dealing with internally. Whatever it is we go to our island. 

I’ve been to my island several times for these types of experiences but I also go for peace and quiet. When others are brewing around me I go for my sanctity. It calms me down and gives me purpose. 

Recently, while on a vacation, I visited an island and it was much like my island I go to in my quiet times. I plan to go back as this was my time to reflect and let go of all that has been bothering me lately. 


Daily Prompt: Island