How many remember that line from Gypsy? I may be dating myself but it seems that we always have to entertain people everyday.
We have to smile, put on our face, go out of our way to make others happy when in fact who goes out of their way to do the same for us?
I was told recently that I should smile more. Really? Smile more. I’m not a fake and phony smile kind of gal. I smile when I need to or want to and don’t do it on demand so to tell me I have to smile more is too demanding. It is making me perform something I am uncomfortable doing. In fact, it makes me feel as if I have a perma-smile on and can’t get it to go away. Like the Joker in Batman.
So if I want to entertain you with my smile let me be me. Let it come naturally and while I am being genuine.
Forcing someone to do something or be someone they are not isn’t entertaining at all. If you feel the need to see someone smile, make them laugh. Best entertainment ever.
Everyday we use our positive and negative energy to do things in our lives.
I don’t think we intentionally do negative all the time it just happens at times because of situations such as being cut off on the road or because we have something cooking on the stove and something else happens. Negative energy just crops up when it wants to. That is why we need to focus on the positive and funnel that energy as much as possible so that when those negative moments pop up during the day we can combat them as much as we can and counter the good with the bad.
I know it isn’t easy but for a better 2018, i am focusing on funneling the positive and trying to stay away from the negative.
Never hold back on something you want to say to someone.
I know it is the opposite of what you’ve always been told right. Don’t rock the boat, always leave with your head held high, never say something to upset another. Do you really think that is what they think about all the time?
I have over the years done these things and have learned that without reservation the best outcome has always been to speak your mind and be you. Of course not everyone will understand and you will be told you are outspoken and overbearing at times but that just means ‘don’t be my friend then’, ‘ go your way and I’ll go mine’, whatever comes my way comes my way it really needed to be said.
So don’t hold back if you have something to say. No more reservations.
I am not saying it was a bad year just one with a lot of bumps and bruises along the way. Sure there were good things that happened too but I could do with a few less bumps and a lot less bruising in 2018. I am finally over 2017 folks.
-moved to the Southeast
-sold our homes, yes homes, in California (thank heavens we are out it has changed)
– son totaled his car
-work was stressful enough to cause health issues
– knee is not what it used to be and has caused issues when running- i know poor me but to keep healthy it is a bother
– the south should be warmer and we have a cold spell, it needs to go away quickly
– friends aren’t what they used to be. Thankful i am making new ones.
– life takes twists and turns and the unexpected happens at times. All good but wow was it unexpected.
– found out we are moving again.
– some family is not worth the dime you spend on them. Others are priceless.
So my recap is that i am ‘finally’ glad that 2017 is done. Lookin. Forward to 2018 with my resolutions in my pocket and my goals written out. Not giving them away or telling others just joking on to them.
It doesn’t require a lot of muscle movement in your face to use, it doesn’t even require a lot of vocal activity it just requires a great deal of ones ego to actually do it.
I’m not talking about the Help one needs if they are in danger. I’m talking about the help one needs to get through life. Simple stuff. Ego however gets in the way. It stifles the process for people to grow.
I’m saying this because if you checked ego at the door there would be better communication between people. People would be able to talk more freely with one another and if they needed help from someone they could say, “I need your help with something, I’m stuck”, ” I need something and don’t know who to turn to, can you help me?”
Help is an easy word to say if only people could do it more often.
I sit on conference calls a lot and when I speak up at times I don’t know if people are listening or grasping for things to do while I talk. Have I been heard?
In another situation silence makes you wonder if what you have said means you’ve been heard.
I often try to talk to my adult college age child about important matters (i.e. Scholarship deadlines, money, life plans, choices) and wonder- have I been heard.
There are times when I feel like screaming at the top of my lungs just to see if anyone will react because I am invisible to them and unheard.
What does it take to be heard nowadays? Does it take people to fight in the streets, post ridiculous media segments, protest for a cause that is only one sided or be part of something you know is not within your moral ground. Is that what it takes to be heard? If it is- I’d rather be silent.