Dormant

We all have a part of us that lies dormant. We don't want to show our true colors to people or are afraid to be ourselves at our jobs or in front of others because we'll get chastised for being abrupt or outspoken. We might even be shun from groups because we don't fit in with their ideals.

It is sad that people can't allow others to be who they are and speak their mind. It is unnerving that one can always be made out to be the 'bad guy' when others can do or say what they want. It is sad that some must lie dormant and create undue stress on their lives to get by in this world.

Individuals need to start looking at themselves and see that they are not always right, they are not always to push their ideals onto others that prior planning does create less anxiety in those they work with daily.

Sorry if this doesn't make sense to most, to me it does.

Daily Prompt: Dormant

How we learn 

We all learn at a different pace. Some of us might be able to look at something once and instantly have it saved to our memory bank; others it might take two, three, maybe even four times before it becomes solid. 

I know from experience that it can be easy and hard to pick up on things even if you know the concepts. Take for instance switching jobs within your same field. You haven’t left the field but you still need to learn a ton about the new company, the people, how things work, you are learning as you go. 

I take each of these moments with stride. I’ve learned over the years that you can’t rush learning. People use to say ‘cram for your classes’ but you really can’t. You need to absorb it all otherwise you don’t know the culture, the people, or the field itself. 

So to me… To learn is to take it all in. That is learning. 

Weekly Discovery Challenge: Learning

Communicating across the board

Funny thing about communication. Some people know how to communicate effectively and others- they close themselves off when the slightest thing doesn’t go their way or something is said that they just don’t like. It is interesting to me to watch this display or dissatisfaction. I say that for these reasons:

1. I talk to a lot of people everyday. I talk to them on the phone, through the computer, through electronic communications, and in person. Over time you learn to read their interactions with you and the silence you receive. The more you get to know someone the more you learn the triggers that are sent. 

2. They don’t know how to react. Instead of talking things through, they jump and react by closing themselves off from the world. Some just need to learn to use their words. 

3. People shut each other out for days/weeks thinking that it is the best way to deal with a situation. For them it is best but for the work situation, collaboration or even a friendship- it is detrimental.

4. Basic understanding is key to self growth. Sometimes you don’t always get what you want but communicating what is needed from others is a risk we all take each and every day. We have to learn to live with what others share, no matter how hard it is to swallow at times.

Those are my four principles for communication when others don’t respond or communicate effectively with each other. Learn to accept when someone says something you don’t necessarily like. You may not know what is going on with their lives at the time and you may not know the situation you’ve put them in if say a meeting was cancelled that was of high importance for work and they’ve been made to back track for you. Rethink your reactions. 

Communication is key and 90% of our day. 

Tortoise and the Hare

I saved two people from losing their cell phones today. Good deed done right?

I’d hope that counts. Both were at the airport and both were not even thinking about their phones. Too much in a hurry to get to their next location. At the airport I would say it is the right place to slow down and remember all of the items you came in with. A location that you may not want to slow down so much at is the freeway. 

On my way to my meeting this morning at 6am a woman decided to get in my lane and just slam on her brakes. There were no cars in front of her for at least 5 car lengths. 5! So why did she do this you might ask. Well… When I got in the lane to pass and look over, it appears she dropped her hair brush. A hair brush. Honey, do that before you leave the house in the morning. 

The traffic was the same all the way to the meeting for the next two hours though. People are either very tentative to drive or they just don’t care anymore about others on the road. Five, six, even football field length gaps on the lanes and they are just meandering down the highway. Even olive officers are passing and going around vehicles. You would think they would pull them over and cite them, but no. Just cruise on by and get to where they are going. 

So my soapbox today is people. There is a time to be slow and a time to speed up. I know each is at their own pace but consideration for others is important too. 

Two kinds of People

There are people who are too big for their shoes, and then there are “People who are Full-of-Themselves”. Lately, I’ve been dealing with the second type of individuals and it wears on you. 

I guess I am suppose to be SuperWoman and not only do my job, be a mom, be a wife, and try to keep things together for a start-up right now but I am also suppose to know everything that this , let’s call them the FOT (full of themselves) knows as well- or thinks they know. Now I know quite a bit about where we should be in the start-up. In fact I don’t think we’d be where we are today in one portion of it if it weren’t for my knowledge, but the FOT feels otherwise and doesn’t want to acknowledge it. It is an “all about me” case and not a “team” or “good on ya mate well done” case at all. A little frustrating don’t you think?

So I run and get out to do things that I can to try and relieve my levels of stress. I’m looking for other ways. Ideas. Articles, books. Something to help with dealing with a overbearing, controlling individual who turns things back on you. Anyone?

The Pushy People

You encounter them everywhere you go. They are those who cut you off on the freeway, yet their lane is free and clear; they are the people who at fireworks shows have their selfie sticks right in your view or jostle position next to you with their elbows because they need a better shot; they are even the people at work who want to one up you because they feel they can do a better job than you when all you want to do is get your job done efficiently and effectively. These people have no boundaries. They are overbearing, time consuming, and most of all annoying.

I bring this up as I’ve experienced lately a couple ridiculous individuals. Let me explain…

1.) As I was running yesterday trying to get my training miles in, this woman and her partner came past me. Now I was cruising along down a hill at a nice pace, minding my own business on the sidewalk on the right side as I should be to let those coming up the path pass, however this “lovely” woman comes up from behind and throws out her elbows and almost pushes me into the bushes as she passes coming down the hill. Now let me just say…there was no one coming up the hill and she had plenty of room to pass. She also did not use proper running etiquette and say, “excuse me”. Yes she was “lovely”. The partner just ran past and didn’t look back and here is the reason why, as they got to the bottom of the hill and he stopped to stretch for a couple seconds, she screamed at him. Boy did she scream at him. I could hear her through my headphones and see her tortured face as it contorted into a mass of evil because he stopped. Definitely something wrong with this person and I do hope that karma comes and deals her a hand of something.

2.) Selfie stickers. I’m glad Disney has banned them, but they need to do a better job of checking people’s bags (including stroller bags, diaper bags, and backpacks). These two individuals at the fireworks were obnoxious. The woman and man were both pushy with their selfie sticks and the stroller in a crowd of people. So we were hit with the stroller and their arms with selfie sticks because they we’re jockeying for position. All we wanted was to be away from them, their harsh words, and stroller, but they continued to push with their stroller into our legs as we moved forward slowly. When we finally did get ahead of them because there was a break and their stroller couldn’t get through, we landed near more selfie stickers that were also obnoxious and obviously guilty because they knew they shouldn’t have had them in the park. I made a comment to my husband about the other people and the little man who had his selfie stick in front of us got his panties all bundled. Oh my! Really people??? Relax. Abide by the rules or get out. Of course they continued to use their stick throughout the fireworks in front of us but being that they were vertically challenged it didn’t really matter to us. 

3.) The traffic hogs need to relax. You are all going the same place. Everyone is on the freeway for the same reason-we have somewhere to go. Just be patient. Cutting someone off just to be in that lane when your lane is perfectly fine is ridiculous. This guy did this last night. Found it pointless. Jumped in our lane cut whole lane off when he had nothing in front of him for like 6-car lengths. Then cruises down for a while and jumps back over to the lane he came from. Why? There was no exit nearby, no fasttrak lane, no express lane, nothing. Maybe we’ll just chalk it up to idiot driver. Agree?

4.) The one-uppers need to relax. We all go in to do our own work. No one is there to do anything else than make the company move forward, well some may micromanage but the rest of us are there to move the company forward. There are those that try repeatedly to one-up though. There has to be something else for them to do. Maybe give them a task with some crayons and big pieces of blank paper to draw out their vision like kindergarten and then toss it in the garbage can because one-upping is a time-suck for everyone. Collaboration is more productive. Be productive people, move forward not backwards.

That is my soapbox for today. Thanks for stopping by.

Get a life

There are days when you just want to scream and others when nothing can go wrong. I find that the days when nothing goes wrong there is always someone or something that comes along the next day and tries to bring you down. For whatever reason they are jealous or pushed out of shape because you are succeeding or progressing, even having a good day. What is wrong with these people? Are they genuinely not happy? Are they fearful of your success? 

How I feel about it is- Get a life! 

There are so many better things to do than try and ruin someone’s day. Get a grip, get off your high horse and stop acting so childish.