One bite at a time

Lately it has been a bit frustrating to get things done that require my full attention.

There are individuals who insist that they are correct in all aspects of the daily grind yet they don’t know the first thing about what I’ve been doing to make the flow of work or life for that matter efficient and effective. They assume that I am doing things wrong.

I have spelled out in words or in actions a plan, a strategy and still They insist that I am not doing right by them. It is truly getting to be a day to day beat down.

Today I am just venting and tomorrow I know will be a better day but this last week has been a real let down all around.

So my outlook is to take the small bites of good in a day no matter how insistent someone is that you are doing something wrong. Every small bite will fill you with goodness. Just keep filling yourself with small bites because that will give you some hope you will make it through the day.

One bite at a time.


On being candid

There are people in the world who keep things to themselves, they don’t want to rock the boat because often times they feel they will hurt others feelings or they will get hurt themselves. They also want others to like them.

There are also people who are open, speak up, are seen as overbearing, intimidating and aggressive because they are go getters. They aren’t afraid to rock the boat and get an opinion or what is being hidden in the room or conversation out there. They are candid and to the point.

What is a problem is that both groups have difficulty coexisting in the same setting at times. We still make judgments on people who speak up and say what others are too afraid to say themselves. Those that don’t want to speak up silently ridicule those who are candid and then can’t interact or work with individuals who are open and want to get the issues out there to work through the tough stuff.

How can we get through these issues if people can’t come together? I don’t have the answers but I do know that people need to be given a chance and people need to not be judged on their words alone.

For one, look at the impact people are making. If the person is candid and upfront and they are making a difference then maybe it is a good thing. Learn to work with it and find a way to interact with those who are candid, open and overly zealous. You never know, you may just learn something. It also goes the same for those who are more open, learn from your quiet counterparts, what is it that you can gain from their more reserved demeanor that you can incorporate into your life?

The two can coexist with hard work and determination.

DailyPrompt: Candid

Let me entertain you….

Let me entertain you, Let me make you smile.

How many remember that line from Gypsy? I may be dating myself but it seems that we always have to entertain people everyday.

We have to smile, put on our face, go out of our way to make others happy when in fact who goes out of their way to do the same for us?

I was told recently that I should smile more. Really? Smile more. I’m not a fake and phony smile kind of gal. I smile when I need to or want to and don’t do it on demand so to tell me I have to smile more is too demanding. It is making me perform something I am uncomfortable doing. In fact, it makes me feel as if I have a perma-smile on and can’t get it to go away. Like the Joker in Batman.

So if I want to entertain you with my smile let me be me. Let it come naturally and while I am being genuine.

Forcing someone to do something or be someone they are not isn’t entertaining at all. If you feel the need to see someone smile, make them laugh. Best entertainment ever.

Daily Prompt: Entertain



We all have a part of us that lies dormant. We don't want to show our true colors to people or are afraid to be ourselves at our jobs or in front of others because we'll get chastised for being abrupt or outspoken. We might even be shun from groups because we don't fit in with their ideals.

It is sad that people can't allow others to be who they are and speak their mind. It is unnerving that one can always be made out to be the 'bad guy' when others can do or say what they want. It is sad that some must lie dormant and create undue stress on their lives to get by in this world.

Individuals need to start looking at themselves and see that they are not always right, they are not always to push their ideals onto others that prior planning does create less anxiety in those they work with daily.

Sorry if this doesn't make sense to most, to me it does.

Daily Prompt: Dormant


How we learn 

We all learn at a different pace. Some of us might be able to look at something once and instantly have it saved to our memory bank; others it might take two, three, maybe even four times before it becomes solid. 

I know from experience that it can be easy and hard to pick up on things even if you know the concepts. Take for instance switching jobs within your same field. You haven’t left the field but you still need to learn a ton about the new company, the people, how things work, you are learning as you go. 

I take each of these moments with stride. I’ve learned over the years that you can’t rush learning. People use to say ‘cram for your classes’ but you really can’t. You need to absorb it all otherwise you don’t know the culture, the people, or the field itself. 

So to me… To learn is to take it all in. That is learning. 

Weekly Discovery Challenge: Learning


Communicating across the board

Funny thing about communication. Some people know how to communicate effectively and others- they close themselves off when the slightest thing doesn’t go their way or something is said that they just don’t like. It is interesting to me to watch this display or dissatisfaction. I say that for these reasons:

1. I talk to a lot of people everyday. I talk to them on the phone, through the computer, through electronic communications, and in person. Over time you learn to read their interactions with you and the silence you receive. The more you get to know someone the more you learn the triggers that are sent. 

2. They don’t know how to react. Instead of talking things through, they jump and react by closing themselves off from the world. Some just need to learn to use their words. 

3. People shut each other out for days/weeks thinking that it is the best way to deal with a situation. For them it is best but for the work situation, collaboration or even a friendship- it is detrimental.

4. Basic understanding is key to self growth. Sometimes you don’t always get what you want but communicating what is needed from others is a risk we all take each and every day. We have to learn to live with what others share, no matter how hard it is to swallow at times.

Those are my four principles for communication when others don’t respond or communicate effectively with each other. Learn to accept when someone says something you don’t necessarily like. You may not know what is going on with their lives at the time and you may not know the situation you’ve put them in if say a meeting was cancelled that was of high importance for work and they’ve been made to back track for you. Rethink your reactions. 

Communication is key and 90% of our day. 


Tortoise and the Hare

I saved two people from losing their cell phones today. Good deed done right?

I’d hope that counts. Both were at the airport and both were not even thinking about their phones. Too much in a hurry to get to their next location. At the airport I would say it is the right place to slow down and remember all of the items you came in with. A location that you may not want to slow down so much at is the freeway. 

On my way to my meeting this morning at 6am a woman decided to get in my lane and just slam on her brakes. There were no cars in front of her for at least 5 car lengths. 5! So why did she do this you might ask. Well… When I got in the lane to pass and look over, it appears she dropped her hair brush. A hair brush. Honey, do that before you leave the house in the morning. 

The traffic was the same all the way to the meeting for the next two hours though. People are either very tentative to drive or they just don’t care anymore about others on the road. Five, six, even football field length gaps on the lanes and they are just meandering down the highway. Even olive officers are passing and going around vehicles. You would think they would pull them over and cite them, but no. Just cruise on by and get to where they are going. 

So my soapbox today is people. There is a time to be slow and a time to speed up. I know each is at their own pace but consideration for others is important too.