What is a mentor? Simple question right? I ask this because for years I had one, or thought I did and they turned out to not really help me much at all in the end. They derailed me more than anything. So I will give you some advise on what to look for instead to help you find someone to help you with your quest for success.
1. Find someone who matches your career focus. What is it you want to succeed in and go after that professional person.
2. Communicate openly about what skill set you are looking to achieve and what you would like help them to groom you in. If you aren’t open to change or get advice it won’t be beneficial.
3. Have regular meetings to check in. The best thing you can do is regularly meet to gain perspective and check in with your mentor. Learning is how you become successful.
4. Watch them at their game. You learn by doing and by observing. See if you can tag along with them to meetings or find out what conferences or events they may be at. They are your best resource for improvement and to learn from to be your best.
5. Failure is possible and is OK. It is a learning possibility and not a setback which is why a good mentor will have failed as well. Learn from your mistakes and listen to the advice on how to correct them.
So listen, learn and succeed with a good mentor. I made my mistakes with the one I had and now I hope you can learn something too.
I recently took a trip back out to California and it dawned on me that folks there seem to be consistently in overdrive.
Don’t get me wrong, I Love California. Born, raised, wed and raised my own child there, but it has been nice to live away from the hustle and bustle. Everyone is always tapped in to something and always in such a rush.
Cars zoom in and out of traffic lanes, people push past you to get in line for coffee, airport terminals are crammed with people, it has become a constantly moving and sensory overload environment if you are not in it everyday.
Small bites nowadays. I can take small bites. I love my home state but I also like being less rushed.
I’ve been watching the birds outside the window sitting in the tree chirping and soaking in the rays of the sun, flitting about from branch to branch. They really are busy creatures throughout the day and it reminds me that they are just like us. We flit about just the same from place to place, from call to call, meeting to meeting, e-mail to e-mail to get the daily work done. I don’t think we stop long enough to take in what is around us each day and enjoy what is physically there present and accounted for.
We are asked to be present and give audible tones to say ‘here’, ‘yes sir’, ‘yes ma’am’, but are we really present physically? I know I am going out on a limb but I watched the birds on the branch and they look around and take a moment, even that brief 30 seconds of rest before flying off to another tree and I wonder, should we take that time as well to be present and accounted for for ourselves each day before moving between everything we do? Do we mentally take breaks through the day at all?
I’m just processing and cycling while watching the birds but have you ever just sat and thought about that?
Lately it has been a bit frustrating to get things done that require my full attention.
There are individuals who insist that they are correct in all aspects of the daily grind yet they don’t know the first thing about what I’ve been doing to make the flow of work or life for that matter efficient and effective. They assume that I am doing things wrong.
I have spelled out in words or in actions a plan, a strategy and still They insist that I am not doing right by them. It is truly getting to be a day to day beat down.
Today I am just venting and tomorrow I know will be a better day but this last week has been a real let down all around.
So my outlook is to take the small bites of good in a day no matter how insistent someone is that you are doing something wrong. Every small bite will fill you with goodness. Just keep filling yourself with small bites because that will give you some hope you will make it through the day.