What is a mentor? Simple question right? I ask this because for years I had one, or thought I did and they turned out to not really help me much at all in the end. They derailed me more than anything. So I will give you some advise on what to look for instead to help you find someone to help you with your quest for success.
1. Find someone who matches your career focus. What is it you want to succeed in and go after that professional person.
2. Communicate openly about what skill set you are looking to achieve and what you would like help them to groom you in. If you aren’t open to change or get advice it won’t be beneficial.
3. Have regular meetings to check in. The best thing you can do is regularly meet to gain perspective and check in with your mentor. Learning is how you become successful.
4. Watch them at their game. You learn by doing and by observing. See if you can tag along with them to meetings or find out what conferences or events they may be at. They are your best resource for improvement and to learn from to be your best.
5. Failure is possible and is OK. It is a learning possibility and not a setback which is why a good mentor will have failed as well. Learn from your mistakes and listen to the advice on how to correct them.
So listen, learn and succeed with a good mentor. I made my mistakes with the one I had and now I hope you can learn something too.
I try Over and Over again to have a mantra, but I just can’t come to find one that works. Most days when I get frustrated I chant Namaste Over and Over again until I feel better but that lasts only a short time. I do this when I feel that my creativity is stifled or that i am cornered or in a box.
How is it that there are people in the world who want to always place others in a box or stifle their spark. I got excited about a project one day and a coworker said that it won’t work it is too broad of an idea. What? Think outside of the blinders you have on and what potential we all have. Why be inside of a box yourself and then place others inside with you. I don’t understand people who want to do that to you. Be open and just.
There is this person who is so so negative and then spreads their toxins around to others. They then stifle the air we all have to interact with them in and makes it uncomfortable. They also go and lie and say that those who do try and interact with that person said something they didn’t like or didn’t agree to. So who is stifling who? It makes you then stifled because you no lib we want to interact or bring things up, instead it makes you want to shut down.
I’m all for getting rid of those who bring on the negative, toxic energy and push forward with the new and positive forces of good. Enough is enough.
There is a strategy that one should have when playing a game- if you want to win.
There is a strategy to having a leg up in the competition if you want to be ahead in the market.
There is even a strategy to meandering through LA traffic on a given day- what time do you leave, what lane should you be in, what route is best to take.
There is a strategy for just about all situations. We just need to put aside 10 minutes a day to think through possibilities. Each of us can come up with a strategy to make our lives easier just by carving out time each day to find a better, sounder way.
It is a new year, a new month and a time for us to look forward.
Often times we let things linger, fester and follow us from year to year. This year is a time to be forward-thinking and move on. Let the sunset on the horizon of 2017 and all that has happened in the past and start new. We are 20 days in to a new beginning- start fresh.
It is a goal of mine to let it go this year. I’ve already let go of those people who have caused me grief and harm in the past year. I’m starting over this year and beginning fresh. I’m looking forward to the new year and new adventures.
As I sat in a meeting recently I wondered that there has to be something missing. A loophole maybe. You always hear about companies trying to figure out what is missing and they need to figure out, so I began to wonder, ‘how can we fill in the loopholes in our own lives?’
I took a look at my every day events. While it was filled with meetings, emails and issues, there was still a loophole in being able to get things done. How was I going to complete everything I thought. Well, it was in rearranging my day. My loophole was in how I went about things. I found that I wasn’t making the most of my day to day. I started by carving out time to turn off email to get things done. Create client docs, do tasks that needed to get done, prepare for meetings, etc. then do emails and get through tickets as I needed. The biggest thing I was forgetting that was causing a major loophole for me was taking time for me. Once I was able to tie it altogether I was more connected and centered.
I tell you all this because being that it is a new year, reevaluate your daily grind. Look at where you may have a loophole as well.
You never know how it will impact your day to day.
How many remember that line from Gypsy? I may be dating myself but it seems that we always have to entertain people everyday.
We have to smile, put on our face, go out of our way to make others happy when in fact who goes out of their way to do the same for us?
I was told recently that I should smile more. Really? Smile more. I’m not a fake and phony smile kind of gal. I smile when I need to or want to and don’t do it on demand so to tell me I have to smile more is too demanding. It is making me perform something I am uncomfortable doing. In fact, it makes me feel as if I have a perma-smile on and can’t get it to go away. Like the Joker in Batman.
So if I want to entertain you with my smile let me be me. Let it come naturally and while I am being genuine.
Forcing someone to do something or be someone they are not isn’t entertaining at all. If you feel the need to see someone smile, make them laugh. Best entertainment ever.