Remove the expectations this Valentine’s

Valentine’s Day. A day filled with heart shaped boxes, jewelry, chocolate, dreams, and expectations. 

Some people may have been married on this day and celebrating a special occasion, others may have had their hearts broken, and others just may not relate at all.  I used to have expectations for the day just like everyone else but over the years I’ve become tired of the commercialization that stores and television put on Valentine’s Day. It forces expectations on people instead of letting it happen naturally and spontaneously. It takes the unknown out of life and makes people have to react that is why I am more inclined to just have a quiet retreat and spend a day, other than Valentine’s with my husband somewhere. No frills, no candy, no hoopla- no expectations. 
Daily Prompt: Expectations

A new year

Hello 2015!!!

Finally a new year to bring a whole new perspective on living.

A lot is going to happen this year and it is all going to start with this month. Three days in and we are already getting ready for change. So many bright, new beginnings and I am looking forward to each.

Goodbye 2014, it’s been real. I’m looking forward to 2015 and the people that I will engage in conversation with, the new surroundings I will get to see, and all the possibilities that are out there ready to be explored. You never know what is right in front of you until you take a step in the direction you are most afraid of going.

Get out and try something new. 2015 is waiting for each and every one of us.

Approaching things differently

Out with the old and in with the new. Breath in and breath out.

As part of my no madness March, I am doing a bit of spring cleaning. It doesn’t just mean getting rid of the clutter around the house. It means dumping the negativity that accumulated as well along the way. See since I have been looking for a job it gets frustrating at times not having any results. Example, you reach out to your network and they don’t always respond. That’s a negative. So I am searching for a new approach. That’s my positive. Another example, I’ve talked about this before but there are friends who just aren’t worth your time or energy. In fact they don’t even see you on their radar or can’t even bother to pick up your phone call. That is a negative. Well, get rid of them. They are the baggage that is weighing you down. I’m doing that this month. Getting rid of the baggage and putting it to the curb for the collectors to pick up. It’s my positive.

I think that this will be a great start to my no madness March and a good way to stay positive. More to come in March…

Positive energy promotes a solid foundation for growth and change. -R.T.

Here’s to a brighter 2014

I am looking for better days. 2014 is to be fabulous. So far things have been good with a little bit of bad.

I am look for opportunities to flourish, be alive, excel. I no longer want to be held back. This year is the time to shine.

So from here on out I hope there are more opportunities not only in every day living but in work as well. I want a challenge and something to help me grow.

Just need some excitement this year.

The Unlikely Timing of Information

Information comes to us in many different ways. The best information comes to us at the most unlikely times and it is this information that we are the most surprised with when it catches us off guard. Kind of like throwing out the life preserver because you need support and you find that the line is split and there is no one to help you.

I guess I have a couple things going through my head right now:

1. I am stumped when I hear that people expect you to know something when there is no indication that you should have known it. Or you start something and find out that nothing works the way it should but there is a lack of urgency to get things fixed, however, you should know how to make it happen for you. I don’t know why this is, or where these people come from who make these broad assumptions but do they really think that it is ok to catch someone off guard and be alright with it?

2. It is like trying to rely on a friend to be there. You expect them to be compassionate and sincere when you “need” them and find out that they don’t care a bit about what is going on in your life to be there for you at all. You’ve reached out and “poof” you get nothing in return. No compassion, no sympathy, no depth to the emotion that you are feeling, just plain pathetic contact. Who are these people? You’ve given them “your” time and devotion when things went wrong in their life and they can’t give their time now. WOW! Reality check.

3. I am having a hard time with people who expect you to contact them out of the blue because the phone works two ways and they think that you should always be the one to make contact first. I thought Alexander Graham Bell designed the phone to work in a way to make a conversation work from either end. I didn’t think it was only a one-sided adventure. Am I wrong on that?

I guess I am just getting older and looking at things from a different way of life these days. Maybe I am just wishing people would open their eyes and be a little more personable.  

 

Throw out the dead wood

Just as we cannot see our own faces without looking into a mirror, we cannot know ourselves without looking at our relationships.

Strange how things stay with us.

I’ve been evaluating things lately. Being as it is getting to the end of the year, I decided it was time to get a head start, but something prompted this evaluation really. It was a need to clean out the dead wood in my life.

There are times when we take things for granted, we all do it, but when we do it time and time again- that is when it will eventually become a problem. I’m to that point and I’ve been given a little perspective lately to boost my confidence to throw out the dead wood in my life and move on.

See I have always been the one who has been there for everything. Congratulations, promotions, births, deaths, a conversation when needed because people need it. I’ve been the rock for people to get through the toughest times, but in return when I’ve needed it- I’m the one holding myself up. It’s never the same. When plans are made, they are cancelled and I’m left to say, ‘it’s okay’, ‘no worries’, ‘we’ll catch up’, but it never happens. Well it just so happened that all I needed was 5 minutes and I couldn’t even get that. What does that tell me about where I stand as a friend? It tells me that I’ve just been hit by the biggest train and on the front of the train it says, ‘sucker’.

That moment gave me a reality check on everything. We really cannot know ourselves without looking at our relationships with others. Who we communicate with is key to who we are as people. I’ve been wrong all these years. I thought I had a friend I could trust and I was wrong. It breaks my heart to know I was such a fool and blindly led to believe they were someone other than truthful with me when all I have ever been was open and honest.

I now know that my reality has changed and the relationships I have with people will be changed forever from this point forward.

Wicked ways aren’t always winning qualities

Write about evil: how you understand it (or don’t), what you think it means, or a way it’s manifested, either in the world at large or in your life.

[to Glinda] Very well – I’ll bide my time. [to Dorothy] And as for you, my fine lady, it’s true I can’t attend to you here and now as I’d like; but just try to stay out of my way – just try! I’ll get you, my pretty, and your little dog too! [With a burst of laughter, she whirls around and vanishes in a burst of smoke and fire and a clap of thunder.] – The Wizard of Oz

Yes I’ve encountered evil first hand. Much like the Wicked Witch of the West, minus the green skin on the outside, the individual was green with envy on the inside. For some reason they had issues and still do have issues. Maybe they felt they could do things better, or that I was better and they wanted my life. Maybe they wanted everything to be perfect in their world and when they couldn’t attain that they decided to take it out on others. Maybe they are just sick and twisted and need help. Whatever their reason was for their jealousy, rants, crying and outlandish wicked ways, they felt they needed to hurt others in the process. I don’t understand people like this. They can be so sweet one day and then, BAM! Someone who is hateful the next.

I am glad that I do not need to encounter this person anymore. They will torment and torture someone else I am sure and maybe, just maybe someone will listen and do something about this person. Karma may come into play-maybe. I’m sure the wickedness will still hold true inside of them, I don’t know if that will ever go away. But I will not be around to see it thankfully. I’ve moved on and I am away from the evil that lurked in corners and stepped lightly around to cause issues and problems. I don’t need people like that in my life. Honesty, trust, openness. Those are the real kinds of qualities that you should look for in people. Others are just phony and out for themselves.

Advice for the person: just let it go already, get help for yourself and grow up!

Daily Prompt: Wicked Witch